Boosting Self Esteem

NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming ) is an approach to psychotherapy and organizational change based on a model of interpersonal communication chiefly concerned with the relationship between successful patterns of behaviour and the subjective experience (esp.Pattern of thought) underlying them and a system of alternative therapy based on this which seeks to educate people in self awarenesst & effective communication and to change their patterns of mental & emotional behaviour .


How can NLP help low self esteem ?

Before NLP , psychologists and other professionals used to study people with problems and try to work out solutions for them .
The developers of NLP thought , ' wouldn't it be better to study people that have had a problem and gotten over it ?'
They did just that and thus created some of the most amazing personal change tools in existence today !

When they discovered a new way a person solved a previous problem they called this thought process , behaviour a PATTERN .
One of NLP patterns is the swish pattern that uses an area of NLP known as sub-modalities .
You don't need to know all about sub-modalities to use this procedure though .

We actually do 'swishes' inside our minds already below our threshold of awareness .
A swish is a brain process that switches us from one state of consciousness to another .
Your brain can swish you to a negative state or a positive state of mind .


How to use the swish to boost your self esteem ?

By directionalizing your brain in a positive direction .
The swish is incredibly versatile with many uses :

1-Get rid of unwanted habits such as : smoking , nail biting , facial tics , etc .
2-Change unwanted behaviours such as : getting angry at people , negative feelings triggered by certain situations ,etc .
3-Change unresourceful feelings into self empowering feelings .


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It is always best to set up a personal goal where you can accomplish
the most in record time, maybe like mowing the lawn in an hour before
the big game on TV.
A correct and positive thinking attitude in whatever you do
will make things easier, and even enjoyable.


Here are some tips to make it through the week even if you're just
sitting in your favorite couch.
An idea takes time to form in your
head and is always at work while you are busy sitting.

Having a bit of positive thinking can help you realize things that are
never thought possible.



1. Take passionate action towards living your life by design
Talk is cheap.
Action = deposits in the bank of a passionately authentic
future. Without it, passion is void.

This is a perfect example where dreams are made of where you start by
tinkering with your mind, then with your hands. And if the idea
weakens, you can always go back to it later until you finish it.


2. Commit to yourself as well as those you love to create powerfully a
life you can love Instead of reacting, commit to creating from your
heart and soul, out of love rather than fear. A dream will still be a dream without motion. Be
amazed as the transformation begins.


3. Recognize and embrace the thought that each moment is perfect
regardless of its outcome
Every time you hit on something that may
appear too extreme, why not give it a shot and see if it will work.
You will be surprised to see of there are other ways to get the task
done in time.
If you are not pleased with the outcome, decide to use
that moment to learn from and make the appropriate shift.


4. Dwell completely in a place of gratitude
Learn to utilize what you
have in your hands and make use of it in the most constructive way.
Slipping into neediness will become less of a habit when you
repeatedly shift towards gratitude, away from poverty consciousness.


5. Use a Passion Formula of Recognize/Reevaluate/Restore in place of
the Shoulda/Woulda/Coulda whirlwind
The former is based in increased
knowledge and abundance while the latter focuses on scarcity and lack.
As you face people or tasks that may seem harder than scaling the
summit of the Himalayas, allow yourself to realize that the task is
just as important as giving out orders to your subordinates. You would
rather be richly passionate!


6. Keep humor at the forefront of thought, laughing at and with
yourself when possible
You may find yourself quite entertaining when
you loosen up! I am yet to see a comedian ever go hungry even though
his jokes are as old as great-grandma.
Life has so much to offer to
allow you to mope around in self pity. Humor is very attractive, very
passionate: life-giving.


7. Believe that you are the architect of your destiny.
No one can take
your passionate future from you except for you! Create your life
authentically. As long as there's still breath in your body, there is
no end to how much you can accomplish in a lifetime.
The concept of
positive thinking is all about enjoying your work, which would lead to
celebrate a discovery that is born within your hands.
Watch everything
flow into place with perfect, passionate precision.

It's interesting how people get wallowed up by something trivial as
learning to use a computer, when nowadays that top computer companies
are manufacturing software that even the kids can do it.

It doesn't mean to be condescending, but that's the idea of not having any positive
thinking in your life-you'll just end up as a dim bulb in a dark
corner.
So instead of subjecting yourself to what you will be doomed
for, make your path by taking the first step with a positive thinking attitude.

There are many ways to lose your
sense of self-esteem despite of how
trivial it could get.
But whatever happens,
we should all try
not to lose our own sense of self-
esteem .

So what does it take to have more
self esteem ?
Here are some of the things you can
think and improve on that should be
enough for a week.


1. Know your purpose
Are you wandering through life with little direction - hoping that
you'll find happiness, health and prosperity? Identify your life
purpose or mission statement and you will have your own unique compass
that will lead you to your truth north every time.

This may seem tricky at first when you see yourself to be in a tight
or even dead end. But there is always that little loophole to turn
things around and you can make a big difference to yourself.

2. Know your values
What do you value most? Make a list of your top 5 values. Some
examples are security, freedom, family, spiritual development,
learning. As you set your goals for 2011- check your goals against
your values. If the goal doesn't align with any of your top five
values - you may want to reconsider it or revise it.

The number shouldn't discourage you, instead it should motivate you to
do more than you can ever dreamed of.

3. Know your needs
Unmet needs can keep you from living authentically. Take care of
yourself. Do you have a need to be acknowledged, to be right, to be in
control, to be loved? There are so many people who lived their lives
without realizing their dreams and most of them end up being stressed
or even depressed for that matter. List your top four needs and get
them met before it is too late !

4. Know your passions
You know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life. Obstacles like
doubt and lack of enthusiasm will only hinder you, but will not derail
your chance to become the person you ought to be. Express yourself and
honor the people who has inspired you to become the very person you
wanted to be.

5. Live from the inside out
Increase your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting
in silence. Commune with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your
distracted mind. For most of us city slickers it's hard to even find
the peace and quiet we want even in our own home. In my case I often
just sit in a dimly lit room and play some classical music. There is
sound, yes, but music does soothe the savage beast.

6. Honor your strengths
What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? List
three - if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help identify
these. Are you imaginative, witty, good with your hands? Find ways to
express your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase
your self-confidence when you can share what you know to others.

7. Serve others
When you live authentically, you may find that you develop an
interconnected sense of being. When you are true to who you are,
living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around
you, you give back in service what you came to share with others -your
spirit - your essence. The rewards for sharing your gift with those
close to you is indeed rewarding, much more if it were to be the eyes
of a stranger who can appreciate what you have done to them.

It was our 7 ways to have more self esteem .
You should know that Self-improvement is indeed one type of work that is worth it. It
shouldn't always be within the confines of an office building, or
maybe in the four corners of your own room. The difference lies within
ourselves and how much we want to change for the
better.


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